Tuesday, November 5, 2013

The Unexpected


I don't even know where to start with this post.  Thank you for comments received, emails sent and phone calls made with regards to the news of my husband's colonoscopy result of cancer.  I'm telling you....getting your colonoscopy is just as important as your mammogram!  Thankfully this is caught early but results after surgery will determine the stage or even if further treatment is necessary.

We met with the surgeon yesterday and the surgery is much more intense than we initially were told.  My husband will require 7 days in the hospital and then a six week period of no lifting or working and this is if he recovers on time.  Do you know how hard it will be to keep him from doing nothing?  This is the guy who tinkers on his jalopy and is constantly doing something because he can't just sit.  I've considered teaching him to hand piece but honestly he won't go for it!  Perhaps applique?  Hmmm

The surgeon also instructed my husband avoidance of stair climbing during recovery.  Here we are in this rental home that is all about stairs with all bedrooms and the showers up.  We have awesome builders who are moving up the date we get the home to accomodate the situation we are now in.  We should get the new home Dec 6th with just a few days to get everything moved before he goes to surgery.  Granted there will be no time for decorating the new home at least the heavy work is done and he will have comfort with single level living.

I have my moments of crying, rants, raves and all that goes with and that this is a simple wake up call of what is really and truly important in life.

Last week when we were at the house my husband took a few pictures.  The above is a part of the front door.  I love the scroll work.  We were also surprised when we walked in to see cabinetry going in as well.  My kitchen cabinets are a bisque color.

Quilting - - I'm doing what I can to get the tops "frosted" that are here.  Thank you for your patience and understanding.

55 comments:

belarmina said...

todo este esfuerzo vale.....
y todo saldrá muy bien
cuando pase este tiempo ,todo volverá a su sitio natural,y se valoran mas cosas que antes no se pensaban siquiera
besos para los dos

Darlene said...

Your new home is going to be beautiful, Mary.

I will continue to keep your husband in my thoughts and prayers. And, you, my friend, as well. I'm constantly amazed at how life throws challenges our way at times we don't expect them. You'll get through this - trust me. ((Hugs))

sunny said...

So sorry you and DH have to go through this, Mary. What awesome builders you have that are trying their best to accommodate your needs. You may not get out all your Christmas decorations this year, but DH will be decoration enough!! Hugs and prayers.

WoolenSails said...

That is wonderful that you can move in before the surgery, will be easier on him, but i hope you don't overdo it,by doing it all yourself. Continued prayers.

Debbie

Kaaren said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Hang in there, my friend. Having been there, the only advice I can give you and Jeff is to listen to the professionals. You'll have lots of time to enjoy your gorgeous new home when this is all over.

Giant, giant hugs.

Janet O. said...

Such a difficult time, Mary. It does create a lot of raw emotion. I am keeping you and your DH in my prayers.
I'm glad your builders are trying to adjust for your sakes. Looks like a beautiful home you will be moving into. Here's to many years of making memories there!

Michelle May-The Raspberry Rabbits said...

Oh my gosh girlfriend! I'm just catching up on blogs after being gone to Houston. I'm so sorry! :( Sending light, love and prayers that everything will be fine. I'm so happy it was found early. Sending you extra hugs. Good gracious...

suz said...

I just heard about your husband. I'm so sorry that you guys have to go through this. I'll certainly keep you both in my prayers that this surgery will take care of everything.

Loris said...

Wonderful support from your home builders! And we will all keep praying here for more encouragement and reasons to hope for the best.
The peaks into your new home show some beautiful touches. I surely hope the quilting work goes smooth. You don't need anymore challenges!

Sue said...

Beautiful home Mary ! What a relief that the builders have moved up the date for you to move into your new home. What great news ! Wishing hubby a speedy recovery

Millie said...

Sorry your dh have to go through surgery. I am glad you can move in your new beautiful home before the surgery. Hugs and smiles

Jo said...

Mary the house looks beautiful!! I sure wish I was closer as I would gladly pack a box for you or tote things around. What a blessing that you will be able to get in your new house in time to accommodate his needs. Even in times of trial God can add a touch of good timing. Our best to you and yours. Keep us posted.

Sharon Eshlaman said...

I don't know how I missed the post regarding your husband.... So sorry to hear but soooo glad you're on top of things now. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers - hugs to all.

Shirley--Knot-y Embroidery Lady said...

Looks like the making of a home that will be a joy to live in. It is my prayer that Heavenly Father will hold you in the hollow of His hand. Hugs

Lori said...

it seems like a long ways off, but it sounds like timing will work better. Great news the house is going to be done sooner.
(Hugs) to you!! I like the idea of teaching hubby applique :)

Sinta Renee said...

Your home is beautiful Mary. I have a pantry and fridge area just like that. I love a corner pantry! The front door is gorgeous.
My hubby went through similar surgery... we got him paints, easel and canvases but he never used them. Tried books too. I never found the right thing to make the recovery period better. If only they would do handwork!

Leeanne said...

Bloggy hugs, you seem to have much on. I think it will be tough for your man to keep still & you to encourage him to do so!
Your home is looking fabulous.......I bet you are excited.

Karen said...

You guys have been in my thoughts, thanks for the update. I'm happy about the house. Wish I was close enough to help.

Deb said...

Your house looks beautiful! I'm praying that everything goes well with his surgery.

Rita said...

Thanks for the update, Mary. I continue to keep your husband in my prayers. Your kitchen looks wonderful!

Mary C said...

Kitty Charlotte is keeping her extra toes crossed for you all - that is her way of keeping her fav humans in her heart.
Of course it will be hard to keep him inactive - he's a man!!! But you will prevail.

Sherrill said...

I know exactly how you feel as I went thru all that when my DH was diagnosed with brain cancer. Altho with his dx, there was basically no hope given & he passed away 1 yr after the cancer was discovered. I pray your hubby's surgery goes well and thank heavens the house is at the stage it is to accommodate him.

Lesley said...

I can't say I know what you are going through, but I can say that I will continue to send prayers and positive thoughts. And yes, I have patience and understanding...take care of you and yours first! Thinking of you...

Karen - Quilts...etc. said...

I hope you get moved into your new home before your husband has his surgery - it is very hard to deal with bathrooms and bedrooms upstairs when you are not supposed to climb stairs. Hope all goes well.

Jackie said...

I'm so sorry to hear your husband and you are going through this. I'm sure your husband will listen to the pros regarding his recovery plan. I'm glad to hear you'll be moving in on time, your new home is beautiful!

Myra said...

Life takes so many twists and turns, Mary. I will be adding you and your husband to my prayer list. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.

Carrie P. said...

Yes, it is going to be hard to keep a good man down.
My husband broke his ankle as we were clearing land to put our house on. He was the worst to live with because he couldn't do anything.
Hopefully, it won't be bad to live with. :0)
I know you are getting excited to get in your new home. Looking good.

Stitched With Prayer said...

Mary, I understand fully what you are saying about keeping your hubby down for at least 6 weeks. I know when my hubby had his heart attack, he was instructed to take a one mile brisk walk every day for the first two weeks out of the hospital, but otherwise, rest. He was not allowed to drive, do yard work, etc. and like your hubby, mine is one that HAS to be on the move or he climbs the walls. I also tried to interest him in piecing quilts. I told him he could use one machine and I would sit on the other side of the table and teach him...well, that went over light (as my hubby like to say, pardon my crudeness) "a turd in a punchbowl". He wouldn't have anything to do with it. I told him once he got started it would catch his interest and literally begged him to try, but he wouldn't even consider it. MEN!!! But oh how we love them in spite of their hard headed ways, huh? I'm so glad you will be in your beautiful new home and living on one level while he recovers. I will be keeping both of you in my constant prayers for comfort, healing and for your hubby to be able to deal with his inactivity as he needs to while recuperating. Sending out big hugs and good thoughts to you both. God Bless and Keep...

~Laurie~ said...

Sending loving thoughts your way. May you have the good health and strength you need to bear this burden. You have a lot of friends here in the cyber world - keep us updated so we can send you strength!

sandi s said...

I send prayers and my best wishes for you and your husband. I hope for a great outcome.

Carrie ~ Cricketwood Prims said...

Your new home is beautiful, hooray for your awesome builder. What a blessing to have all your needs met, you are in Gods hands and He will be your strength!
Applique may just be what the doctor orders!

Mary said...

Two story houses can be such a pain as we get older. We are in escrow on a one story house for that very reason. My fingers are crossed for you and your husband.

Needled Mom said...

The new house looks gorgeous, Mary.

I am wishing the best for you and Jeff with the upcoming surgery. The decorating and settling in can always come later. All we want now is for your Jeff to rest and recover.

Prairie Patch Quilts said...

Continued prayers; and best wishes for you and your husband. I know this must be a very difficult time in your lives. Keep positive thoughts! You have so much to look forward to with your new home.

Cheryl said...

A hectic December, but what a blessing if you can get into your gorgeous new home before surgery. You and your husband are in everyone's prayers.

Alicia said...

Praying with you and for you and yours! My hubby's had 2 heart attacks already & 6 stents - - today we visit a dr about a thing under his tongue & awful,long-lasting sore throat. He's worried so I'm worried. Our youngest son fought cancer & won so far (13 yrs later). But hubby's brother died of brain cancer. Thank you, Lord, that through our pain, we know who wins!

andsewon said...

Still keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers. What wonderful folks building your new beautiful home! One hurdle down for your DH to cross, no stairs! Remember to take care of You so you can take care of him.
Hugs,
Lola

JudyCinNC said...

I know your strength and love will overcome and please know that you are in our thughts and prayers. Your family is so very special and your boys will be there to help. Hopefully everything will fall in place, as it should. Judy C in NC

PunkiePie (Jen) said...

Gorgeous front door and love the kitchen cabinets! Fantastic that your builders are willing to work with you so that things can be comfortable for your husband. That's great. Prayers for your husband for speedy recovery!

LynCC said...

That door really is beautiful. That is great that the builders moved things up for you guys. I'm so sorry for what you two are going through, but grateful for the hopeful outlook since it was caught early! Keep that positive energy flowing - it really helps in the healing. And I'll keep you in our prayers!

Jeanna said...

Your home is coming along very nicely Mary! What a blessing that the builder will have it ready for you and your husband early.

Keeping you both in my prayers...strength for you and successful surgery and speedy recovery for your husband.

Applique, huh? Not a bad idea :)

Polly said...

Mary, your new home is looking so lovely!! And I would have the same problem if I had to keep my husband still for that long,too! You all are in my prayers for a great outcome and a smooth recovery!!

onlymehere said...

Prayers coming your way that the house will be finished on time and that things go well with the surgery. Times like this really do remind you of what matters most and I guess that's why the good Lord allows them to happen. Rosie Greer used to do needlework, maybe that will be enough to spark your husband's interest in learning it. :)
Cindy

onlymehere said...

Prayers coming your way that the house will be finished on time and that things go well with the surgery. Times like this really do remind you of what matters most and I guess that's why the good Lord allows them to happen. Rosie Greer used to do needlework, maybe that will be enough to spark your husband's interest in learning it. :)
Cindy

Valerie Z said...

I love your new house! Truly awesome builders trying to get you in well before schedule! I agree with Sunny, your Christmas decorations may not be out this year but Jeff is all you need! Be well yourself! Hugs and prayers to all of you! Good luck getting Jeff to do some handwork for you! Tinkering all these years might just have given him an "edge" to try applique!

Carol said...

Your house is looking lovely. I'm glad they bumped up the date for you. Please keep us informed about your husband's surgery. Hugs & good thoughts to you both to get through this difficult time. Just don't let him lift anything. Maybe he can take up reading.

Lorraine said...

My thoughts are with you and your husband...and fingers crossed the builders will be able to get you into the house before the surgery. I am about to turn 60 and had my first colonoscopy a few months ago...have since had surgery and all is ok - follow up due in a couple of weeks....thank you for posting about the importance of having these checks...we do tend to put these things off - I am guilty of doing that and was lucky - someone else may not be. I agree whole heartedly with Kaaren's advice....listen to the professionals - and don't forget to take care of you x

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Rx for Quilting said...

I will keep your husband and family in my prayers. God bless!

Mrs. Goodneedle said...

Prayers for health and healing, my friend. Bless you all!

paulette said...

Oh, Mary!
I was so sorry to read about your husband!! Thank goodness you can move in before the surgery so that he can recover in the comforts of his new home..with no stairs!
Your new home is absolutely GORGEOUS!! The workmanship is out of this world!!
My thoughts will be with you over this trying time!! Hang in there and keep smiling!!
Pxo

Wendy Caton Reed said...

Having just recently gone through colon surgery, all I can say is yes, teach him applique. I worked on my hand work and was up and running in 5 weeks. Do take care and I wish you all the happiness in your new home.

Connie said...

My prayers and thoughts are with both of you and since he got his colonoscopy early that will really make a difference!

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