Monday, August 20, 2012

Empty Nest

 Here's my youngest son in his dorm room.  Its been nearly a week now of not having him here in the house with me daily.  It is quiet with exception of his text telling me what to bring next time we visit.  So far we have request for tennis racket/balls, a cable for the tv and his bike.  I'd say he is getting along just fine.
 Oh gosh my husband was so happy for our son and in good humor the photo was taken.
One more photo of this sweet kitty that I loved so much in the short time I had her.  The power of friendships through blogging is amazing.  One of my blog readers named Mary C. reached out to help above and beyond the normal.  You see, Mary lives in Florida and I'm in North Carolina.  Mary fell head over heels in love with kitty's photos and she tried to help me locate a home for her.  (along with so many others)  In a nutshell, Mary had to have kitty for herself.  Logisitics wasn't the problem as far as she was concerned but asking her sweet hubby Clay was.  Mary's hubby is a keeper!  On Saturday, he flew from Florida to Atlanta, switched flights to Charlotte where we were able to meet and hand over sweet kitty (I'm in tears of course) and then he flew back with her to Atlanta to catch his flight back to Florida.  Clay gets upgraded to First Class so guess who else went First Class?!!!!  It's a kitty story with a happy ending and I'm so relieved she is in a good loving home.  Care to guess what the purr-fect new name Mary and Clay gave kitty?

My home is an empty nest now with just husband and I.  I'm learning to cook for two again.  I tease my husband that if I make spaghetti I can feed him for a month.  It's the beginning of a new chapter for us.

62 comments:

~Laurie~ said...

Thanks for sharing your empty nest journey. I have 7 years for my empty nest and do not look forward to it (although at times, I must say I do!). Anyway, it's nice to know I'll have others that have already been through it when it's my time. And the kitty story has kept a smile on my face - it's such a sweet story for a sweet kitty!

Carla A Few Of My Favorite Things said...

I remember doing the happy dance when mine left home for college. But now their careers have taken them to live in other states, and I found myself wishing they were back home.

Lynn said...

I could use some help also figuring out how to cook for 3 instead of 5. I have lots of leftovers.
We spent the past two weeks focused on dorm room decorating. I need to get some pictures, it's turned out very cute.
Happy ending for First Class the kitty?

JCnNC said...

It is always difficult to let them fly solo but I do know they always return to the love of parents with new adventures as memories. Is the kitty's name First or Class?

beth said...

I just dropped my son off on SAturday. It's quite a milestone for the sons AND the parents!

ytsmom said...

What a sweet story. Love the picture, she looks very intelligent!

Dirt Road Quilter said...

We just completed our first year as empty nesters. I'll keep you in my thoughts. It's so strange and much too quiet, but new adventure lies ahead for the two of you! I'm still trying to figure out how to cook for 2, but I'm not spending nearly as much time in the kitchen...more time for stitching! :)

Dirt Road Quilter said...

Oh, and I meant to add: Send care packages! Putting things together helped me when our youngest left for college last year and they LOVE getting things in the mail. Happy to hear that kitty has found a good home and is loved! Did they name her after you? :)

Vroomans' Quilts said...

I've had an empty nest for almost 15yrs?? - now the pleasure is the grands coming to visit. Hmm I would name that sweet kitty - Miles

Debra said...

Carolina???

WoolenSails said...

It is hard when they grow up and move away, mine are gone, but close enough to bug me whenever they want, lol. Mary is a wonderful lady and such sweet thing, that her husband did.

Debbie

Karen said...

I would say that kitty is very lucky.

Cheryl said...

Sometimes you just need to read about something nice and wonderful and this story about the kitty fit the bill...so wonderful and yes I would say she is going to an amazing home!!! On the empty nest thing, yes a new chapter for you guys and speaking from experience, a definite shift in your world. So proud to have them grow up and spread their wings even though we miss them like crazy. (hugs)

Fiesta said...

Yes it is a good chapter but such a wonderful one.

Patchwork Penguin said...

Right there with you. Our twins are leaving for their freshman year... though the one doesn't leave until September 19. I told my husband he better get used to eating Cheerios :o)

Carrie P. said...

Well, I am sure your son is going to have a great year.
I can't believe those folks flew here to get the kitty.
Could they have named her Carolina? She sure is sweet looking cat.
Keep fixing food for 3 or 4. That way you don't have to cook as much and you can sew more.

Pen Pen said...

What a sweet kitty story! I think she should be called First Class, too! Or Charlotte, or Carolina.... what sweet people to fly in from Fla. to take this precious kitty home!

sunny said...

Does Mary C have a blog, so we can follow the wage of sweet kitty? It will take some time to adjust, but I think you'll like being an empty nester. Makes the time together more special.

regan said...

Congrats on upcoming lower food budget! LOL When the last of our three boys left home, I was amazing at how much less food I had to bring home each week. And when I'd reach for a cookie.....there'd be one! :o)

I'm thinking maybe Kitty's new name is Delta? :o)

Mrs. Goodneedle said...

...and so, Kitty's new name is... ? We're all waiting! That is one terrific story with a very happy ending.

Best wishes to the empty-nesters, it takes some getting used to, I'm sending big hugs your way!

Little Lady Patchwork said...

Congrats to Kitty!...but I am wiping my tears for you!
Stefanie

Sandy D said...

Oh that takes me back to when the last of our 4 girls left home and me having a hard time with her gone. It took a few months but we got use to the empty house.

Leeanne said...

Thank you for sharing, I have all this to come as my boys grow so quickly. I guess it must be a time of mixed feelings.
What a happy & well loved cat!

Vivian said...

I love my empty nest--most of the time. But the return of a child or two for a visit, the noise and activity returning to the house -- that's even more special to me.
My husband is a pretty good sport about my cooking of excessive quantities when there are only 2 of us. I prefer cooking less and reheating more. That leaves more quilting time!

The kitten story put a huge lump in my throat and a big smile on my face--all due to the power of a blog telling a story. Wonderful!!

Sue said...

Oh how I don't like the empty nest thing. That's hard on mom's :/

Mary C said...

She's now called "Charlotte," the place where she made the transition between the two families. She is adventurous and feisty in a new household with 2 older male cats. Lots of hissing while new relationships are being forged. She has lit up my world!

Tonya Ricucci said...

sweet baby girl. yeah, who am I kidding if I'd come and gotten her there's no way I could have given her up. so happy she found a wonderful home!

Patty said...

Never have figured out the knack of making spaghetti for two. Thank goodness it makes good leftovers.

Mary on Lake Pulaski said...

That empty nest adjustment takes a long time to get used to. I don't think I did until we moved into "our" home so there were no empty kids rooms.

Wendy said...

That's one special kitty. It takes time but now I enjoy having the house with just the 2 of us.

Shakerwood said...

It's a chapter you will get used to VERY quickly....speaking from experience! I'm ready to get my empty nest back!

Mary said...

How funny. I was thinking of making spaghetti sauce tomorrow. But the 24 portions sound like a bit too much for the two of us!!

Doniene said...

Kitty is a doll!! So glad she has a happy home!! Empty nest - ahh the new chapter of your life!! After our children left home and then Mike's mom moved to town - well it has been a new adventure! Lovin' it!!

Blessings

paulette said...

I was going to guess Charlotte or Carolina so I was half right! What a wonderful story and what a guy!! Mary C, you give that man of yours a big smooch-eroo for being such a wonderful human being! You are a lucky woman!
P

paulette said...

PS...The empty nest will feel empty for the first year or two...and then look out!! When they all come home you are going wonder how in the world you did it with them all under one roof!!
P

Gerri said...

What a cute kitty and a sweet story with a happy ending. I sure would call ber one lucky kitty - finding a nice home, flying first class and having an awesome foster mom for a little while!

Darlene said...

A happy ending for the kitty and wonderful new beginning for your son. Adjustments for you and your sweet hubby. Here's a huge hug!

Janet O. said...

I've told you about the revolving door on our basement. Our youngest just moved home again the end of July, for a month--between apartment contracts. Always fun to have them home again.
Now that is a kitty lover--and a patient, supportive husband!! But what a sweet little face--no wonder they couldn't resist.

AnnieO said...

That empty nest isn't permanently empty yet--we have a transitional college student too--who comes and goes and visits all her friends and sometimes even spends time with us :) But it is an adjustment not listening for them to slam the door as they come in, or call out goodbye as they leave :)

Your kittysitting ended so well. What a lucky feline she is!

Bari Jo said...

This whole post made me teary... :O) we are starting senior year for our youngest this week... I know this year will fly by quickly... oh Mary - I hope you get a trip to see your son soon! Loved the pictures and stories!

moosecraft said...

Awwww... sounds all good to me! It's great when kids can stand on their own... it means there have been some hard working and supportive parents behind them all those years! :-) And the picture of kitty is just melting my heart! She looks like such the sweetie pie!

Barb said...

loved the photo of father and son.
I'll be all quiet here too after labor day. Took our daughter this past weekend.
Your foster kitty is just too cute!

andsewon said...

Awwhh what a handsome fella. He will do fine at school. Beleive it or not you will get used to the empty nest quickly! after a while it will feel a bit differnt when they come home to visit/stay...hahaha!You and DH will get in your own new groove. Glad Kitty found such a sweet home to fly too! Could her name b Carolina Kitty?
Hugs,
Lola

Karen said...

So happy for all - she is a beautiful kitten. It will take you some time to adjust but then it's kind of fun to just whip something up for the two of you :). We've been empty nesters for 10 years.

Me and My Stitches said...

You will get used to your empty nest, then when they come home you will wonder how you ever kept up with it all! I love kitty - really wish she were coming here. What a darling little face she has.

Carol said...

Your son is beginning a new adventure in his life, I know you'll miss him but are happy for him too. I'm thinking they named the kitty Charlotte.

Diane said...

ah the empty nest!
I still can not get the spaghetti amount right :)

PunkiePie (Jen) said...

Hugs Mary!! Sounds like big adjustments happening in your house. I'm so happy sweet kitty found a new home.

suz said...

Boy did this bring back memories! I only have one child and he wasn't that far away - about 45-50 minutes - but far enough for both of us to go thru adjustments. Now, 12 years later, he lives in the next state...which isn't quite as bad as it sounds. I actually work in the same city he lives in. It took some time to get used to being alone (I've been divorced a long time), but it is so nice when he comes home to visit. Watching them grow up and mature is the best part and the nicest part is when they still need us. My son is now in grad school, but he does occasionally ask me to look over a paper for him or ask advice on how to handle an unusual situation at work...so I'm still needed.
BTW, really happy about kitty...did they name her Carolina?

Cheryl said...

An empty nest is not a bad thing as long as the chicks don't fly tooooo far!

Loris said...

Your son looks pretty happy there. He will continue to make you and your DH look good!
You sure know how to treat a kitty! She is so adorable!

Lori said...

Yay! For your son. It does take a little getting used to, but overall it's very nice:)
Amazing kitty story.

Valerie Z said...

So glad "Kitty" found a home and got a first class plane trip! Wishing your son well in his first year of college. Just looking at the size of the dorm room makes me cringe! Cooking for 2 is not all that bad....some wonderful left overs when you are not in the mood to cook or too busy quilting! Enjoy your day! (thanks for letting me know UPS arrived!)

Beverley said...

Hugs to you. It's been a bit of a stressful time for you.
My eldest is leaving for University next month, and I wonder how we will feel. We still have the younger one at home.
Bev in Britain.

Cottonwood Lane Primitives said...

I'm impressed that you were composed enough to take a photo! It was super hard leaving my youngest behind that first year of college, but it is exciting seeing them take that next step. The kitty looks like my youngest cat, who is a sweetie. Glad she found a good home. ~Roberta

Michelle May said...

Wishing you lots of happiness as you enter this new chapter of your life. Of course, it's always good to know that you are a wonderful parent when your kiddo's keep texting and asking for things. You will always be needed and loved for sure.
Glad that precious little kitty got a fabulous home.
xx

Mrs A said...

My son left home for a little while and has now returned and commutes, which is great, its a long way, but he loves home :)
And the kitty, what a lovely hubby to fly all that way, just amazing!
Your quilting is just amazing, I am now a new follower, so nice to meet you!

MARCIE said...

Hang in there Mary! You will adjust and so will your son. Letting go is not easy, but you have raised them to be self sufficient. That is good for all of you!
Love that sweet kitty. Glad you found a good home for her, and what a great guy that Clay is!

Heidi's Garden said...

That is a happy ending and your son looks happy to be at school too. I am sure you will miss him but he will always return for some mother's love.

Hugs from Holland ~
Heidi

Magnolia Bay Quilts said...

This post makes me so happy! What a lucky kitty to have so many sweet people in her life. Is kitty's name Mary?

You probably have mixed emotions about the "baby" being gone. Hope you adjust well and enjoy having some Mary time.

Sew Create It - Jane said...

My eldest heads off to uni in a couple if weeks time.. It is going to feel very strange and I'm a little bit dreading it... Luckily I still have one at home to keep me busy.

Katie said...

I love my empty nest but it would be nice if everyone lived closer. Ah well.

I'm sure I'm not the first to suggest Caroline (or Carolina) and Charlotte. :-)